A surrogacy journal

Follow with me on my amazing journey to give a wonderful couple the joy of a second child!

Monday, December 20, 2004

A wee little update

I think I have upset V! She was feist when we chatted yesterday. LOL I told her everything I had been told about how the transfer could be put off even longer because of the doctor's availability and other things and she told me she was going to call IARC and be MAD. V you are so cute! Though I can't blame her for it either. I'm a little upset about all this myself.
Anyway, we are still hoping for a transfer in the beginning of Feb now, even though I might have to be gone on Loryssa's birthday.

I had my doc appointment today. Boy was I nervous though! I just knew that I had to tell him what was going on and why I was making such a big stink about not getting my period when most people would be elated about not having it at all. He was totally understanding though. Since they deal with infertility he knew what was going to happen and why I was nervous about it. He went in there prepared to tell me I was worrying over nothing and to just let my body do its thing. Then I told him that I'm a surrogate and I need to be assured that I can have my period in Jan he changed his thinking. He said that its probably best that I stay off the birth control pills anyway, which I had already sworn off 4 weeks ago. They make the uterine lining thin over time anyway and I will need a decently thick lining for IVF. He also said that since my cycles have always been like clock work every 28 days when I have gone off the pill in the past there is no reason to think they won't be now. BUT, if I don't get my period the day I think I should to call him right away and have a serum pregnancy test and the PIO shot like I did last time.
So V&K rest assured that that is exactly what I will do!

I also went ahead and made an appointment with him to do my testing stuff in Jan after I get the kit. I was hoping to get in on Jan 6th but he is going to be gone that day so my appt. is Jan 7th. I would have gone for the one on the 5th but I figured that would be too soon and I wouldn't have the kit yet. This way I'm pretty sure everything will be here that I need and I can get it done already!!!!

Only a couple weeks away and we will be well on our way to a happy healthy fun and non-adventerous pregnancy!

Thursday, December 16, 2004

2 steps forward and 3 steps back

As the title says, thats exactly what has happened. We got the contracts signed and sent back. K&V got theirs out last friday thank heavens. But yesterday I got an email that I didn't want to see. I won't be able to get my medical testing kit until after January 3rd since the clinic closes Dec. 20th -Jan. 3rd. :(
So that means that I won't be able to start my meds until after that and we have to have the test results back from ALL the tests before we can do a transfer. So it will be 6 weeks at least after I get my testing kit sent back. But it only gets worse from there.
Since I have been lucky enough, yeah right, to not have regular cycles these past 4 months we could be waiting even longer for our transfer. I can't start taking my meds until the first day of my period. I can only hope and pray that I will get it during the 3rd week in Jan. Then I will be on meds for appoximately 25 days before our transfer. So instead of looking forward to a Jan. transfer it will be sometime in Feb. or thats what our hope is now.
Also, since my cycles aren't regular I decided to totally stop taking my birth control pills in hopes to get it back on track. Well its been 3 weeks now and still nothing. So I called the doc yesterday thinking he would have me come back in for a pregnancy test and a shot of progesterone again. NOPE. He wants to see me to try and figure out what is going on. Sooooo, Monday morning I go in and talk to him. I just love my OB doc so I'm hoping with all my might that he will have an answer for me so we can work off my Jan. cycle for the transfer and not my Feb. cycle.

Well, thats the latest news for us and I'm pretty sure we won't have anything new happening until Jan. so I will post again when we have some news.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year everyone!!! Be safe and have wonderful joyous holidays!!

Thursday, December 09, 2004

Final contract is on its way!!!

The final contract was emailed to all of us today. I happened to be checking my email when it came though, lucky me! But of course, my printer had to be having problems. So what do I do? Yup, hey sis, can you print this for me and make 2 copies? LOL She can't ever get a break from me, but my wonderful loving sister said yes and a couple hours later we were off to get it notorized and mailed. What's sad is I didn't bring an envelope to put them in, nor did I bring the address for IARC with me. So after a frantic call to my wonderful sister again and 2 calls to IARC, neither of which did anyone answer, dumb me found the address in the contract. Who would have thought of that? Certainly not me of course!

Anyway, its in the mail now and I pray the get it soon. Now K&V I'm sure will send their part off ASAP too but it takes about a week to receive anything from overseas! We will certainly be cutting it close for me to get my test kit and I won't be able to get my meds before the clinic closes on the 20th until Jan 3rd. :sad: So it looks like now we are looking for a transfer in the beginning of February. I really really really hope it isn't over Feb. 6th as that is Loryssa's 6th birthday! Poor girl would be crushed if we had to be away from her on that day.

So thats the latest news for now. I hope to know more by mid week next week.

Saturday, December 04, 2004

We finally talked on the phone!

Yup! V called me this afternoon, well evening for her, and we had a nice chat. I'm glad to be able to put a voice with the faces and words now, and I'm sure she feels the same way. One topic that we discussed today was the weather. After hearing how decent it was year-round over there, I think we just might move! HAHA I just wish we didn't get as much snow here as we do. Some is fine, but lets keep it measured in inches instead of feet please!

We had some confusion about one particular item in the contract. I voiced my concerns to V, who I think had many concerns of her own afterwards. I then talked with the agency about it who reassured me that it would take alot for V&K to reach a final decison about this "item". After giving it more thought I wrote a lengthy heartfelt email to V. I certainly hope she understood what I was saying and took it as it was meant. :) I have to say, V&K are awesome people and very understanding and considerate. And I just want to say one more time, thank you for thinking of me and being willing to include me in your decision on this subject. It really means alot to me.

Anyway, when V and I talked on MSN the other day, she asked me if I was ready to sign the final contract. Of course I am! So she said she was going to call the agency and tell them to get it sent off. K will be gone this week but I think she is going to tell them that everything is ok and to go ahead and send me what I need for the rest of my medical testing. This is the part that makes me nervous! After I send in my lab work to the clinic they will send me my meds. LOTS of shots! I'm sure I will get used to them, but the part that scares me the most is giving them to myself. YIKES! But thanks to my sister, who graciously offered to "stick me", I don't think I will be doing them all myself. I'm also going to get Ansil to do it, it will give him some practice for his nursing career. :)

So thats the newest update for us. Stay safe everyone

P.S. V, I hope that despite K being gone this week you have a wonderful one. Some extra special time for you and S to spend together.